Why are Some Gay Men Effeminate, and Some Not?; Why are effeminate men despised by gay and straight alike?; Sissyphobia is the first book of its kind - a revealing look into male effeminacy that explores why some gay men are swishy, why other gay men are more masculine, and why effeminate men provoke anger, disgust, and disdain in both gay and straight men. Sissyphobia explores those negative feelings that are aimed at people termed fairies, faggots, flamers and queens; men who, as author Tim Bergling puts it 'run more toward what we could term the Quentin Crisp school of homosexuality' Includes in-depth discussions on:. The reasons straight-acting gay men give for their negative feelings about effeminate or flamboyant men. Why straight men typically resent 'nellie gays' and 'panty-waists' while having much more ambivalent feelings toward straight acting gays. The links between misogyny and sissyphobia. Why more gay men look for masculine traits than feminine ones in a partner. What happens to effeminate boys when they grow up.